I found out today that Zoey’s funeral will be Tuesday, 4/14 at 10am. I’m struggling with whether I should attend or not.
The main reason I am thinking about not going resides underneath my shirt. I am super pregnant. There is not an outfit on the planet that could hide the baby belly I carry with me at all times. I wonder…is it inappropriate for a pregnant woman (who is not family) to attend a babies’ funeral.
Will I make Kim uncomfortable? Will I make other family members uncomfortable? Can I emotionally handle attending a babies’ funeral?
I also wonder how on earth I could *not* attend the funeral. I know Kim is my boss, but I feel that our relationship has grown significantly beyond manager and subordinate. I visited Kim, her husband and baby Zoey. I held her. Chad held her. I saw them less than two weeks ago. They took pictures of us holding Zoey; pictures they will have forever.
What is your opinion?
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I know we discussed earlier. But I think it's a total personal call... I'm certain they would love to have you, so I wouldn't worry about that. But like you said -- the emotional toll on YOU, attending a baby's funeral... that's tough to take.
Not to mention... it's your anniversary.
If you can't handle it emotionally, don't go. Otherwise, definitely go because she is your friend and she needs your support. Also, she seems like a very humble person from your description and I don't think seeing you pregnant would hurt her; I think she'd be happy for your healthy baby.
I agree with Leslie. If you feel that it will take a toll on you, don't go. There is no need to put yourself in a situation that might not be good for little Cayden. If you feel the need to do something nice for the family, make them a casserole or something.
Melissa, I agree and think that if you feel you are up to it and that it won't hurt Cayden or hurt the romance for your special day because it stressed you out, then go. From everything you have said, Kim would be grateful for support and not offended by your attending simply because you are pregnant. I can't speak for her family of course, but it certainly sounds like she would be fine. Do you know if any of your other coworkers are attending? Maybe you can all go together and offer your support.
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